One thing I have discovered since I left my full time employment is that anything is possible. If you want something bad enough, you need to just go out and get it. I often sat and daydreamed about the possibilities, but only recently have I realised how possible it is to make those possibilities a reality. And it all starts with the right attitude.
I recently read an article about how we are priming our kids up to believe too much in themselves. The article went on to say that, by telling our kids how wonderful they are, we set them up to have too high expectations of themselves. I disagree. I tell my child he is clever and when he achieves something amazing, I celebrate his success. If I, the one person he looks up to the most, don’t tell him just how wonderful he can be, will he think it himself?
My thinking is that, we are only as good at something as we tell ourselves we are. Looking back at my first food photos, I can see the flaws. I can see exactly where I failed in making the photos top notch. I also know my food photos are not “perfect” even now, but that is mostly due to my lack of technical expertise, not lack of talent. If I don’t believe I am talented enough to produce a good photograph, what is the point of me picking up that camera? There is no point; I need to believe it, I need to tell myself I can do it.
A few months ago I submitted three recipes to The Beaufort Street Festival for a cookbook they are compiling. I received an email today telling me one of my recipes has been accepted and will be in the cookbook. In all honestly, as I was submitting the recipes, thoughts of “oh they won’t be as good as others” popped in my head. Such demoralising thoughts, as I am as good as I am. It has never been a competition to be better than anyone else, I just want to be my best. If I didn’t put myself out there then I wouldn’t even have had a chance. I stopped telling myself I might not be good enough and started telling myself I AM good enough. I am enough.
So if you have a desire to paint, or pick up a camera, or you want to learn to belly dance then I say why the hell not! Questioning our own capabilities is one thing, but putting boundaries in place in the form of negative thinking is futile, it is the biggest killer (along with conformity) of creativity. Don’t do it. Tell yourself you can and DO IT!
I’ll get back to you again on this when I kill my first 5km run. And all coming from someone who has always vowed she cannot run.