Put yourself out there

One thing I have discovered since I left my full time employment is that anything is possible. If you want something bad enough, you need to just go out and get it. I often sat and daydreamed about the possibilities, but only recently have I realised how possible it is to make those possibilities a reality. And it all starts with the right attitude.

I recently read an article about how we are priming our kids up to believe too much in themselves. The article went on to say that, by telling our kids how wonderful they are, we set them up to have too high expectations of themselves. I disagree. I tell my child he is clever and when he achieves something amazing, I celebrate his success. If I, the one person he looks up to the most, don’t tell him just how wonderful he can be, will he think it himself? 

My thinking is that, we are only as good at something as we tell ourselves we are. Looking back at my first food photos, I can see the flaws. I can see exactly where I failed in making the photos top notch. I also know my food photos are not “perfect” even now, but that is mostly due to my lack of technical expertise, not lack of talent. If I don’t believe I am talented enough to produce a good photograph, what is the point of me picking up that camera? There is no point; I need to believe it, I need to tell myself I can do it.

A few months ago I submitted three recipes to The Beaufort Street Festival for a cookbook they are compiling. I received an email today telling me one of my recipes has been accepted and will be in the cookbook. In all honestly, as I was submitting the recipes, thoughts of “oh they won’t be as good as others” popped in my head. Such demoralising thoughts, as I am as good as I am. It has never been a competition to be better than anyone else, I just want to be my best. If I didn’t put myself out there then I wouldn’t even have had a chance. I stopped telling myself I might not be good enough and started telling myself I AM good enough. I am enough.

So if you have a desire to paint, or pick up a camera, or you want to learn to belly dance then I say why the hell not! Questioning our own capabilities is one thing, but putting boundaries in place in the form of negative thinking is futile, it is the biggest killer (along with conformity) of creativity. Don’t do it. Tell yourself you can and DO IT!

I’ll get back to you again on this when I kill my first 5km run. And all coming from someone who has always vowed she cannot run. 

Watch me.

November 12, 2012 - 7:50 am

ELISA {with grace & eve} - Love your wisdom! I believe this too. Congrats on your recipes getting accepted x

November 12, 2012 - 8:11 am

Peggy Saas - Thank you Elisa. I am a little bit excited! xo

November 12, 2012 - 1:14 pm

Jodi aka Lipgloss Mumma - Awesome Peggy, congrats!

November 12, 2012 - 3:16 pm

Rach aka Stinkb0mb - Congrats honey!! I *love* the place in your life that you find yourself in right now, you seem SO happy xx

November 12, 2012 - 4:20 pm

rah - such great news Peggy! I’m learning to take the leap more often (and higher, too)! Some times you have to just jump :) xo

November 12, 2012 - 6:18 pm

Peggy Saas - Thank you Jodi! Happy days!

November 12, 2012 - 6:19 pm

Peggy Saas - Rach I still pinch myself, every day. This morning after school drop-off I walked back inside to have my slowly-consumed coffee and found myself smiling. Quality time, it makes my heart beam! xo

November 12, 2012 - 6:20 pm

Peggy Saas - So true Rah, if we don’t leap now and again we will always be left wondering. Good for you, JUMP GIRL! xo

November 12, 2012 - 10:19 pm

Elinor - Love this Peggy. Congratulations for busting through those pesky gremlins and sending off your recipes. And I agree – how can we prime our kids too much? How can anyone have to much heartfelt genuine fabby feedback. I was working on this topic with a mum recently – she was worried about her son’s lack of confidence despite her positive feedback on his strengths so I gave her tips on how to help her son be his own cheerleader – identify the things he is most proud of achieving and then list what HE did to make that happen – works a treat for identifying evidence of strengths and qualities which can’t be ignored and dismissed. Failing that sing ‘You gotta accentuate the positive’…loudly ;)

November 20, 2012 - 8:49 am

Kaisla - This is a very good reminder for many people, Peggy! If you are confident you can do it other people will believe it too – if you’re unsure, it’s that much easier for them to doubt it as well. Congratulations on the recipe book, you’re great! xx

November 23, 2012 - 10:18 pm

Peggy Saas - You’re spot on! We all need someone in our corner cheering us on, the little ones more so. You’re a clever lady Elinor, I’m rapt I have you in my corner. :D

November 23, 2012 - 10:19 pm

Peggy Saas - Thanks Kaisla. Self-doubt is debilitating, even on the days I think I can’t I tell myself I can. You’re right, if I don’t believe I can why would others believe it! xo

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